Does your teen (or do you) automatically say no to things more often than yes? There is a fine line between knowing what you like and shutting down opportunities that could lead to potential learning, growth, and increased satisfaction.
As an infant, we tried anything and everything with an insatiable curiosity. Of course we had our parents to shield us from harm, but we went through the day with a non-judgmental perspective toward new foods, new people, new ideas and new experiences. We certainly had no fear of failure or fear of judgment from others.
I have yet to meet an infant who when trying to walk, fell on his butt and then stopped trying to walk in fear of what the other infants would say about him. As we grow up, many of us start to lose that child-like wonder and only stick to what we know we like or we avoid ideas and experiences that are unfamiliar to us. We start to be filled with self-doubt and skepticism. When we encounter a new idea, we may ask ourselves, “Is this going to work?” “Is this going to be worth it?” “What if I try it, and it doesn’t work? It’s just better to avoid it all together!” Continue reading